You still love each other,
so why does one of you always want more?
Most couples never get the right help with desire issues
You’ve just found it
Takes five minutes – Find out where you are and what to do next
Which one are you?
If you want more
You want to feel desired by the person you chose. Instead, you feel rejected. You’ve tried asking. You’ve tried saying nothing. Either way, you end up feeling like the problem.
If you want less
You want to desire the person you chose. You want to want it. Your body doesn’t respond the way it used to, and you don’t know why. Either way, you end up feeling like the problem.
Hi, I'm Katarina
I’m a psychosexual and relationship therapist with over 15 years of experience working with couples stuck exactly where you are right now.
I created The Desire Gap because there was no real, practical help for couples experiencing desire discrepancy. Now there is.
Everything on this site is grounded in research and clinical experience. And some of it will surprise you.
Where would you like to start?
Everything you need to close the gap
Free
The Desire Gap Quiz
Find out exactly what’s driving the gap in your relationship. Takes five minutes and gives you a clear picture of where you are and where to go next.
£12
The Couples Toolkit
Conversation starters, exercises and scripts for when you don’t know how to begin. Instant digital download.
£97
Still Want You
The complete course for couples ready to close the desire gap, in private, at their own pace. Lifetime access.
What couples say
What changes when you understand the gap
“I’d spent years thinking my husband didn’t find me attractive anymore. The quiz made me see what was going on for him, and everything in me just relaxed. We’d been having the wrong conversation the whole time.”
Higher-desire partner
“I’d spent so long feeling like something was wrong with me. Finding out my desire hadn’t disappeared, it just needed the right conditions, finally made sense. For the first time I had a direction.”
Lower-desire partner
“We’d been going in circles for three years. We still loved each other but we’d stopped really trying. The toolkit gave us a language for something we’d never been able to talk about. We’re close again in a way we’d forgotten was possible.”
Couple
For too long, every conversation either goes nowhere or ends in an argument
Nobody ever gave you the right information. Until now.
The quiz takes five minutes. When you read your result, you’ll finally understand what’s been happening between you.
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